I've fought the idea of surrender for decades. Maybe most of this lifetime, if I'm honest.
The word itself felt like defeat, like giving up everything I'd worked to build, like abandoning who I'd worked so hard to become.
I've called myself the "Resistor in Chief," a well-earned title. In fact, I've turned resistance into an art form. And surrender? That was my masterpiece of resistance.
One of your superpowers is pushing through.
Through resistance.
Through tough stuff.
Through the things that bring up fear, friction, or fatigue—and still doing what needs to be done.
A year after my own breast cancer surgery — and through a cascade of other health challenges, including surgery for a broken elbow — I see more than ever how essential this conversation is. Not just personally, but professionally, and systemically. The way we speak about strength, identity, and agency — especially in the context of women’s health — shapes far more than we realize. When Breast Cancer Challenges Your Identity For high-achieving entrepreneurs and [...]
I want to share some insights about a hidden struggle that many high achievers face, one that I've personally grappled with throughout my life. It's a topic that is rarely discussed at its deepest level; it's incredibly vulnerable and lies at the core of our being. It profoundly impacts every aspect of our lives. By starting this conversation, we can support each other in navigating these challenges and stepping into our full potential. For [...]
This principle is crucial for high achievers - not just in leading others, but in navigating our own growth. Our drive for excellence often triggers our resistance to accepting current reality, pushing us to force change rather than allow transformation.
For high achievers, this resistance may show up as: [...]
For decades, high achievers have shared their feelings and experiences with me privately – in therapy and mentoring sessions, behind closed doors. Now, as I bring these conversations beyond individual and group sessions into the open, something extraordinary is beginning to unfold.
As these hidden patterns are acknowledged publicly, it creates permission for collective recognition and healing. The energy locked in private struggles begins to transform into creative power. [...]
High Achievers – outliers, trailblazers, innovators – are often labeled “difficult.” Too intense, too demanding, too argumentative, too dismissive of others.
The very qualities that make us “difficult” are often the same ones that drive our greatest contributions. [...]
Interestingly, after New Year's, a reel came on my FB feed predicting my life would be very different by February. While I couldn't have predicted the ways, I'm watching this unfold.
Have you ever felt like you were wrecked, torn apart and not put back together yet?
I've often heard from my highly successful, seemingly unflappable clients that they have. [...]
A question came up about my recent post on the Litmus Test Question - What do you do when multiple opportunities pass the test?
It seems simple: getting a 'yes' from the Litmus Test Question should make decisions clear. But what happens when an opportunity aligns with your purpose yet your plate is already full? This challenge frequently faces high achievers, particularly entrepreneurs. [...]
Authenticity is a word that has been overused, misused, and used as a tactic.
Yet, that doesn't make it less important or discount the value of being truly authentic. I could (and will in other posts) discuss the impact of authenticity – and the lack of it – on business, relationships, health, and well-being. [...]
