A woman messaged me asking if she could join my FB group for women diagnosed with breast cancer. She said it sounded amazing.

I sent her the link, and she asked if she could join in a few weeks. She was just diagnosed with cancer and wanted to wait a few weeks.

I get it!

I told her I would welcome her now or later, but I recommended sooner for several reasons. She could get started on her healing and health journey sooner. And, she could start taking control of her healing…a factor that is often seen in good outcomes – including in advanced cancer.

While I kept her confidentiality, it sparked a deep conversation with a close friend about how no one regrets doing the things that are good for us sooner.

Whether it’s eating healthier, exercising, starting therapy, checking out a lump or other health concern, getting a great mentor, leaving a job (or a business) that sucks your soul, moving out of a house you hate, the list goes on.

And, for various reasons, we postpone doing the things we know are good for us. We may even know that ultimately we will do the thing – whatever the thing is.

It comes back to an aspect of the Resistance Paradox™ – we often do or don’t do things that would move us where we want to be in our life, to be who we want to be.

We’re trying to do something positive, but our thoughts, feelings, and actions don’t always support that. We’re wired up to protect ourselves, and whether it’s from physical danger, or assaults to our ego, identity, sense of self, or feelings of being in control…the quest to move forward may get throttled by our instinct to protect ourselves.

When I found the lump, despite knowing deep inside that it was cancer, it was a few weeks before I started doing the things that I knew would help move me to greater health.

When I look back, no doubt I would NOT have regretted starting sooner. I try not to beat myself up about it, to give myself grace. I was trying to spend a couple more weeks feeling, acting, like it wasn’t so.

Sometimes the delay is negligible to our desired outcomes. And, sometimes, depending on the timeline and nature of the delay, it can truly hurt us. Certain cancers or infections can spread. We can miss the opportunity for a particular job, a therapist or mentor has no availability…

I do deep work on myself, and I help my clients and patients do their work… to navigate our resistance so we can live happier and healthier, sooner.

Whatever the issue, trust yourself more, get your heart and brain aligned, and take the best actions for you!
Does this resonate with you?

Message me! I’d love it if you’d share a time you postponed doing something good for you…and wish you’d done it sooner.
Dr. K